Speech management and confident English go hand in hand with managing yourself and your thoughts.
Do you often have this feeling of a racing mind? Do you feel you have hundreds of different thoughts constantly crossing your mind, repeating all over again and making you anxious and irritated?
In Zen Buddhist philosophy such a state of mind is described as a room full of jumping and screaming monkeys running wild!
This state of mind is very closely related to all kinds of anxieties, worries, fears – and among them the English speech anxiety.
No matter how well you’re trying to speak English, you head is full of English words, phrases, sentences, grammar rules – all at the SAME TIME! You’re trying to say something – but regardless your toughest attempts you get the English grammar wrong, misspell and mispronounce words and notice this at the very moment of speaking them out!
To deal with this issue of inability to speak English normally you first have to deal with monkeys in your head. Here I’ve written a few basic steps to calm down your mind and start thinking just ONE THOUGHT at a time instead of trying to encompass EVERYTHING at once.
1. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath and start breathing slowly. Try to forget everything you’ve been thinking about before you started reading this blog post. Just distance yourself from the daily affairs and routine, from speaking English, from money matters, family and heart affairs – from everything. There’s just you.
2. The next time you’ll be speaking English – don’t try to speak fast and spit out all the thoughts in one sentence. A controlled and slow speech will do much more good to your English confidence than trying to sound native and speak as fast as they do! Speak slowly, if you get stuck – stop – and don’t allow the monkeys start racing in your mind. Take another deep breath and calm down. Then keep on speaking and remember – it doesn’t matter what your chat partner thinks about your speech.
3. A slow and controlled speech is more fluent and understandable than conversation that is fast, interrupted and full of mistakes. DON’T BE ASHAMED of the manner of your speech! It is your life and only you can decide how you’re going to speak.
4. Don’t hurry living your daily life. The surprising thing is that no matter how fast we try to accomplish our tasks and duties, we actually do less and less. Slow down your life pace – this is especially important in these paced up and fast times when the whole world seems to be literally racing after more money, more achievements, and more success. Actually the opposite is true – success comes through controlled and calmed mindset!
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