We’ve all been there. You’re making an “X” amount of money, you’re struggling, and it feels like it’s never enough. You tell yourself, “If I just had a 20% raise, all my stress would evaporate.”
But then, you get the raise. And something strange happens.
You get more stressed. Your spending increases to match your new income. You realize you have a list of unfulfilled needs you didn’t even know existed. Suddenly, you’re even shorter on cash than before.
This is where many people fall for the “esoteric trap.” They start believing that money is the root of all evil, or that happiness is completely detached from financial matters. But while you’re off chasing “inner joy” in a vacuum, your family is still stressed because the bills still need to be paid.
The Victim Trap: “They’re Sucking Me Dry”
In this cycle, a dangerous tension grows at home. Your spouse or partner wants more—more security, more comfort, more life. But you don’t see it as a shared goal. You perceive their needs as a personal attack.
You feel like they are trying to suck the life force out of you. You think, “The more I give, the more they expect. Poor me.”
Welcome to 100% victimhood. And here is the hard truth: No amount of money will make your life comfortable if you feel like a victim on the inside. If you are stuck in the “Poor Me” mindset, more money is just more fuel for the fire. I know this because I lived it. No matter how much my income grew, my peace didn’t follow. If anything, the stakes just felt higher and the fear felt heavier.
Why Lottery Winners Go Broke
I recently saw a comment on my Facebook channel. Someone said, “If you’re such an NLP wizard, why don’t you get me an 18k-a-month job in Parliament?”
My answer? Be careful what you wish for.
There is a reason why lottery winners often end up broke, addicted, or miserable within a year. It wasn’t the money that ruined them; it was their internal emotional state. If you haven’t built the “internal container” to hold that kind of resource, the pressure will crack you.
An extra few thousand a month won’t bring you peace if your subconscious is programmed for scarcity. It will only increase your stress levels to a degree you can’t imagine.
The Magical Side Effect of Worth
Everything starts and ends with your emotions. Think about the last big decision you made. You felt a certain way, and then you acted.
If you want a different life, you don’t start with the Parliament job. You start by becoming your own authority. You start by cultivating:
- True Independence: Not being a slave to other people’s expectations.
- Internal Value: Knowing you are worthy regardless of your bank balance.
- Emotional Stability: Being the best version of yourself.
When you have these things, more money often becomes a “magical side effect.” It flows because your energy is no longer blocked by the “Poor Me” narrative. You stop being “torn apart” and start being the man who can handle whatever comes his way.
